As people, we have a superpower; it is the power of perception. As the famous saying goes, life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we respond to it.

作为人，我们拥有超级大国； 这是感知的力量。 俗话说，生活是发生在我们身上的10％，是我们如何应对的90％。

There is so much to do in life. It offers you immense opportunities to grow, enjoy, become whatever you want to be.

生活中有很多事情要做。 它为您提供了无限的成长，享受，成为自己想要成为的机会。

Every career has around 1000 Mondays. It’s still a job, no matter how much you enjoy it. As developers, we do programming job, and like any job, some people love it, some hate it, and most are somewhere in the middle.

每个职业大约有1000个星期一。 无论您多么喜欢它，它仍然是一项工作。 作为开发人员，我们从事编程工作，并且像任何工作一样，有些人喜欢它，有些讨厌它，而大多数人都在中间。

But do you know what you should aim for yourself, indeed? Career? Fame? Money? Increased knowledge?

但是，您知道您应该为自己的目标吗？ 事业？ 名声？ 钱？ 增加知识？

Just think, if you continue in the vein you are in, imagine what your life would be like 1–3–5–10 years from now:

试想一下，如果继续前进，请想象一下从现在开始的1–3–5–10年的生活：

💭 Is that where you want to be?

that那是您想去的地方吗？

If it is great — great, if it is not — then start taking baby steps to plan your way out of it. And the following rules below might help to improve your life for the better:

如果很棒，如果不好，那就开始采取一些小步骤，以计划出路。 以下规则可能有助于改善您的生活：

不断养成新习惯 (Form new habits continuously)

Our habits shape our lives far more than we probably realize. They are strong and sticky. They grow stronger over time and become routine automatically.

我们的习惯对我们的生活产生的影响远远超出我们的想象。 它们坚固而粘。 随着时间的流逝，它们会变得越来越强大，并自动成为常规。

It’s crucial to make sure you have the right habits. The automatization of your actions will free up your will-power energy that can be used to focus on other tasks. And that can work to your advantage, your productivity and efficiency!

确保您养成正确的习惯至关重要。 动作的自动化将释放您的意志力能量，这些精力可以用来专注于其他任务。 这样可以为您带来优势，提高生产力和效率！

If you are struggling to make a new habit stick, then you probably are not aware or consciously setting unrealistic goals and expectations.

如果您正在努力养成一个新的习惯，那么您可能没有意识到或有意识地设定了不切实际的目标和期望。

For example:

例如：

“I am going to run a marathon in 2 months, even though I have not gone running since high school.”

“尽管我从高中就没有参加过跑步运动，但我将在两个月内参加马拉松比赛。”

“I am going to develop a full-stack app in 3 days, even though I have just been learning to code since last week.”

“尽管自上周以来我一直在学习编码，但我将在三天内开发一个全栈应用程序。”

“I am going to spend 1 hour daily on learning a new foreign language, even though I couldn’t spend more than 10 minutes on learning for the previous one.”

“尽管我不能花超过10分钟的时间来学习上一门外语，我每天还是要花1个小时学习一种新的外语。”

That’s why if you want to make your new habits stick, you need to…

这就是为什么如果您想坚持自己的新习惯，那么您需要...

1. Start being honest with yourself.
   开始对自己诚实。
2. Approach a new habit realistically and progressively.
   切实和渐进地养成新习惯。

3. Find a motivating reward to encourage your brain to continue adopting a new habit. Light it up with the neurotransmitter dopamine!

   找到激励性的奖励，以鼓励您的大脑继续养成新习惯。 用神经递质多巴胺点亮它！

If you want to learn more about how habits work, you can read more about Habit Loop.

如果您想了解有关习惯如何工作的更多信息，则可以阅读有关“ 习惯循环”的 更多信息 。

Today most people want to change themselves too much too quickly. But the real key to build a habit is to make it so small that you cannot say no to it.

今天，大多数人都想过快地改变自己。 但是养成习惯的真正关键是使它变得很小，以至于你不能拒绝它。

Start small, so you cannot fail.

从小处着手，所以您不会失败。

建立健康积极的关系 (Build healthy and positive relationships)

Do aspects of developer work foster loneliness?

开发人员工作的各个方面是否会加剧孤独感？

“If developers tend to have introverted personality traits, then there is reason to believe that they are more vulnerable to loneliness than those in other professions.” — Elizabeth Plank, Department of Social Policy at the London School of Economics and Political Science.

“如果开发人员倾向于性格内向，那么就有理由相信他们比其他行业的人更容易孤独。” —伦敦政治经济学院社会政策系伊丽莎白·普兰克(Elizabeth Plank)。

I still believe that if developers are alone, that doesn’t necessarily mean they are lonely. However, full isolation can be fatal because it reinforces depression and other mental diseases.

我仍然相信，如果开发人员独自一人，那并不一定意味着他们孤独。 但是，完全隔离可能会致命，因为它加剧了抑郁症和其他精神疾病。

Let’s be honest: not many developers have the best social skills. And still, having relationships is a vital component of our health, well-being, happiness, and success.

坦白地说：拥有最佳社交技能的开发人员并不多。 而且，保持关系是我们健康，幸福，幸福和成功的重要组成部分。

Though I’m not a big fan of self-help books, but “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie has changed my life for the better. I have read this book multiple times because, in my opinion, it is not enough to read only once.

虽然我不是自助书籍的忠实拥护者，但是Dale Carnegie的“如何赢得朋友和影响人”改变了我的生活。 我已经读过这本书多次，因为我认为仅阅读一次是不够的。

In short, my biggest takeaway that thoughtfulness, kindness, gentleness, and respect go a long when dealing with people.

简而言之，我最大的收获就是与人打交道时的体贴，友善，温柔和尊重。

The key is to understand human nature and work with it, not against it.

关键是要了解人的本性并与之合作，而不是反对它。

找到你的导师 (Find your mentor)

To not repeat myself, I have already explained from my point of view the importance of having a mentor for developers in one of my previous posts: Switching Your Career to Programming: 👩‍💻👨‍🏫 Find mentor.

为了不重复我自己，我已经从我的观点中解释了在我以前的一篇文章中为开发人员配备导师的重要性：将职业转变为编程：查找导师 。

The question is, how can a mentor actually help you to change your life for the better?

问题是， 导师如何真正帮助您改善生活？

Mentoring can boost your mental health; moreover, it can lower anxiety for both mentor and mentee, reduce stress levels, and prevent burnout.

指导可以促进您的心理健康； 而且， 它可以降低导师和受训者的焦虑，降低压力水平，并防止倦怠 。

Besides, today social distancing doesn’t have to disrupt mentorship because the current pandemic has many more people teleworking, telelunching, and telemeeting to adapt to the virtual environment.

此外，今天的社交疏散不必破坏导师制，因为当前的流行病使远程工作，远程调教和远程会议的人越来越多，以适应虚拟环境。

Great, professional, and even aspiring mentors show up and engage with mentees in crises and uncertain times, even when that requires creativity and adaptation.

优秀，专业甚至有抱负的导师出现在危机和不确定的时代并与受训者互动，即使这需要创造力和适应能力。

保存并投资 (Save and Invest)

In everyday life, in informal conversations with peers or colleagues, often investing comes as a natural topic. The problem is that most of us don’t have a clear strategy for retiring or investing our savings.

在日常生活中，与同事或同事的非正式对话中，经常将投资作为自然主题。 问题是我们大多数人没有明确的退休或投资储蓄策略。

On the other side, we, developers, are lucky at some point, because we are flexible.

另一方面，我们开发人员在某些时候很幸运，因为我们很灵活。

If we wish, we could:

如果我们愿意，我们可以：

• Get a very high paying job.
  获得一份高薪工作。
• Work remotely and live in a city that is not that expensive and save more money.
  远程工作并生活在一个不那么昂贵的城市，可以节省更多的钱。
• Develop side projects along with passive income.
  与被动收入一起开发辅助项目。

And achieving Financial Independence (FI) can make our life better. At least, it can help us not continually thinking about paying bills.

实现财务独立(FI)可以改善我们的生活。 至少，它可以帮助我们不再继续考虑支付账单。

Above that, your passive side of income will allow you to make better life decisions because cash is not your daily need anymore. You will stop live in a world of scarcity.

除此之外，您的收入的被动方面将使您能够做出更好的生活决定，因为现金已不再是您的日常需要。 您将停止生活在稀缺的世界中。

“Never depend on a single income, make an investment to create a second source.” — Warren Buffett

“从不依靠单一收入，而进行投资以创造第二个来源。” - 沃伦·巴菲特

Ideally, any money outside your active budget should be transferred to investments where it earns returns and is harder to spend.

理想情况下，超出您的有效预算的任何资金都应转移到可赚取回报且难以支出的投资上。

Here, you can learn more about the smart ways to start investing your money.

在这里，您可以了解更多有关开始投资的明智方法 。

Learning how to invest money might seem scary, especially if you get started when the market is experiencing a crash. Still, it’s easier than you think, and you can begin no matter how much you have saved before.

学习如何进行投资似乎很令人恐惧，尤其是当市场崩溃时开始学习时。 不过，它比您想像的要容易，并且无论您之前保存了多少，都可以开始。

If you do your research and due diligence, you should be well on your way to a healthy financial future.

如果您进行研究和尽职调查，那么您就应该步入健康的财务未来。

照顾好自己的身体 (Take care of your body)

It’s not a secret that a healthy body supports a healthy mind.

健康的身体支持健康的心态并非秘密。

Relaxation, Exercise, Attitude, Sleep, Diet, and Meditation: this is a simple recipe for well-being and prosperity in life.

放松，运动，态度，睡眠，饮食和冥想：这是生活幸福和繁荣的简单秘方。

Only we are capable of controlling the things you can control and letting go of the things you cannot. It means, if your body and mind are healthy, anything else can be achieved if you want it enough.

只有我们能够控制您可以控制的事物，放开您无法控制的事物。 这意味着，如果您的身心健康，那么只要您足够，就可以实现其他目标。

The study “The Effect of Exercise on Earnings” refers that people who do regular sport earn 6–10% higher wages.

这项研究“运动对收入的影响”指出，参加常规运动的人的工资要高6-10％。

For instance, regular exercises help release stress, improve blood circulation, sleep better at night, which in turn helps your mind to focus better during the working day.

例如，定期锻炼有助于缓解压力，改善血液循环，在晚上睡得更好，从而帮助您在工作期间集中精力。

每天阅读 (Read every day)

It can sound surprising, but reading books is a skill.

听起来令人惊讶，但是读书是一种技巧 。

It means the more you do it, the easier it is to learn from new material. If you get in the habit of learning from books, your learning rate becomes faster by default.

这意味着您做得越多，就越容易从新材料中学习。 如果您习惯从书本上学习，则默认情况下您的学习速度会更快。

You can get into a reading habit by following the “14 Ways to Cultivate a Lifetime Reading Habit”.

您可以按照“培养终身阅读习惯的14种方法”养成阅读习惯 。

In fact, reading more and remembering it all, it’s a real challenge.

实际上，并记住所有内容，这是一个真正的挑战。

There is reading fast, and there is reading lots. A combination of both is the best way to supercharge your reading routine.

阅读速度很快，而且阅读很多。 两者结合是增强您的阅读常规的最佳方法。

To read more, you need to make time for that and prioritize it by cutting out time from other activities.

要了解更多信息，您需要花时间并通过减少其他活动的时间来确定优先级。

Reading is also a habit of compounding growth. Learn more, and you will generate ideas and enthusiasm for making other changes.

阅读也是促进成长的习惯。 了解更多信息，您将产生想法和进行其他更改的热情。

保持热情 (Stay enthusiastic)

Enthusiasm is the positive inner energy that keeps you trying more when everything goes wrong and inclines you to give up.

热情是积极的内在能量，可让您在一切出错时使您尝试更多，并倾向于放弃。

“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” — Winston Churchill.

“成功包括不断失败而不失热情。” - 温斯顿·丘吉尔。

In the developers’ world, enthusiasm for programming is a side effect of enthusiasm for problem solving and application development.

在开发人员的世界中，对编程的热情是对解决问题和应用程序开发热情的副作用。

The best approach to maintain enthusiasm in programming is to have a vision of what you are creating: knowing how your app or your code can make a difference in the world or even in your life.

保持编程热情的最好方法是对正在创建的内容有一个愿景：了解您的应用程序或代码如何在整个世界甚至您的生活中发挥作用。

Definitely, the programming journey itself can be rewarding, much more satisfying when it builds to a beautiful end result.

毫无疑问，编程之旅本身可以带来很多收获，而当最终达到美好的结局时，其满意度将大大提高。

结论 (Conclusion)

Most of the people are more likely to benefit from simple than complex advice because “A good plan today is better than a perfect plan tomorrow.”

大多数人更可能从简单的建议中受益而不是从复杂的建议中受益，因为“今天的好计划比明天的完善计划要好。”

You can experience whatever you want through your thoughts and actions. Only you are in charge of your life.

您可以通过自己的思想和行动来体验自己想要的一切。 只有你负责生活。

To live a remarkable life, you must take consistent action in spite of your fears and doubts, create the right habits to boost your productivity, and improve your overall well-being.

要过上非凡的生活，尽管有恐惧和疑虑，您仍必须采取一致的行动，养成正确的习惯，以提高工作效率并改善整体健康状况。

You don’t have to do everything all at once, and life doesn’t have to be complicated. Simple living is mindful living.

您不必一次完成所有事情，生活也不必复杂。 简单的生活就是思想的生活。